Thursday, June 26, 2014

Mormon Women: Ask Questions

We are privileged to live in a time when questions about the priesthood are being asked. Privileged! 

Linda K. Burton, the Relief Society General President, said:
We rejoice that we are privileged to live in this season of the history of the Church when questions are being asked about the priesthood. There is a great interest and desire to know and understand more about the authority, power, and blessings associated with the priesthood of God. ... I testify that the Lord is hastening His work, and it is imperative for us to understand how the Lord accomplishes His work so that we may receive the power that comes from being aligned with His plan and purposes. ... Sisters, we cannot stand up and teach those things we do not understand and know for ourselves ("Priesthood: 'A Sacred Trust to Be Used for the Benefit of Men, Women, and Children'").
Honestly, understanding more about the priesthood was never a great concern of mine. I thought it was enough to know that the Church is true, that it is organized by God Himself, and to have faith that He knows what He's doing in reference to women and the priesthood. But I read this quote and realized I should be asking questions. I should be striving to understand more about the priesthood and my own role with it. Especially as a wife to a wonderful priesthood holder. Especially as a soon-to-be mother of a little boy. Especially as a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

In order to further the work of God, we need to know and understand. Yet, we need to be full of faith and obedient while we continue to grow. It's important to follow the example of Sister Marjorie Hinckley who said, "First I obey, then I understand." It's important to remember the lesson Adam teaches us in Moses 5:5-7 when he's asked to sacrifice the firstlings of their flocks to the Lord and he was obedient. It was only have "many days" of being obedient that he learned the why from an angel.

Answers and understanding can take awhile. Though we begin to understand by doing, we must have faith that we will totally understand at some point. Just like Adam. It is not bad to ask questions. It's not bad to seek for understanding. It is bad when you decide your testimony and dedication to the gospel is dependent on an answer contrary to the one you desired or an answer that you don't receive for an indefinite period of time. It's bad when you decide your testimony and obedience is conditional. They should not be.

How should we seek for answers or, in other words, revelation?
  • Pray for guidance
  • Be reverent
  • Be humble
  • Keep the commandments
  • Partake of the sacrament worthily
  • Study the scriptures every day
  • Take time to ponder ("Revelation").
We need to do. We need to take action. We need to show faith and be obedient. We need to be humble. We need to be trying to do what is right. Moroni 10:4-5 of The Book of Mormon challenges us to ask:
And when ye shall receive these things, I would exhort you that ye would ask God, the Eternal Father, in the name of Christ, if these things are not true; and if ye shall ask with a sincere heart, with real intent, having faith in Christ, he will manifest the truth of it unto you, by the power of the Holy Ghost.
And by the power of the Holy Ghost ye may know the truth of all things.
In addition to the previous list, we need to ask sincerely and with real intent. Linda K. Burton also gave a specific list of how we can learn the doctrine of the priesthood for ourselves:
First, seek to be worthy of the Holy Ghost.
Second, the Holy Temple.
Third, the scriptures.
Fourth, words of living prophets.
We should be asking questions. We should seek to learn more. We should seek for understanding. We should have the desire to. I honestly had no desire to seek for answers on this topic myself because it has brought heated emotions and contention over the internet. It wasn't until I recently gave a lesson in Relief Society that I sincerely and earnestly studied the topic of the priesthood and women so I could strengthen testimonies and hopefully relieve doubts and increase faith and obedience. I searched more earnestly knowing that this topic is a passionate one and will probably continue to be for awhile yet. Now, I am so glad I searched for answers. The answers have only strengthened me. It has only made me feel closer to God and helped me feel more of the love He has for me, His daughter. We really are privileged to live in a time when questions are being asking about the priesthood.

Please, take the time to learn for yourself about the priesthood and women. Don't seek for answers through a spirit of contention. Seek to truly understand from God Himself. Read through the scriptures. Read the words of latter-day prophets. Pray. Ponder. Seek. Listen to the Holy Ghost for answers. Be careful to not let your testimony, faith, or obedience be conditional.

Mormon Women Series:
Introduction
Ask Questions
The Administration and Membership of the Church
What is the Priesthood?
Priesthood and Women
Women's Divine Gifts

Mormon Women: Introduction

I am a sister, daughter, wife, and soon-to-be mother. I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. and I believe that men and women are equal, but different.

There have been news articles for several years mentioning women's groups or individuals desiring through petitions, protests, and legal means to be ordained the priesthood and become ministers in their churches. Recently, there has been a focus on a group called Ordain Women founded by Kate Kelly who are attempting to change The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints' policy and have women be ordained the priesthood. The founder of the group was excommunicated just a few days ago for activities that have put at jeopardy others' testimonies and eternal salvation (Deseret News article here). I feel so sorry for her.

I have tried to avoid this topic of discussion because so many individuals become so aggressively passionate about it, and I really try to avoid contention. There are so many other blog posts and news articles and Twitter or Facebook posts, that it can be overwhelming. But I wanted to add my simple little voice to all the others out there.

I want to share with my friends and family my beliefs. How, as a woman of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I do not feel unappreciated or insignificant because I am not ordained the priesthood. I want to express my personal understanding of what the priesthood is. I want to share my knowledge that women and men are equally great and wonderful, just in different ways. I want to share how this Church actually encourages women to become all that they can be and reach their full potential. I want to share how I know this Church is true. That it's directed by God Himself through a prophet, just like in times of old.

I don't know everything. I'm not in any position to declare doctrine. But I can share with you what I do know and what I am learning. To avoid writing one huge post, I plan to write a little series of them. When they are finished, they will be linked to each other at the end of each post.

Mormon Women Series:
Introduction
Ask Questions
The Administration and Membership of the Church
What is the Priesthood?
Priesthood and Women
Women's Divine Gifts

Monday, June 23, 2014

Faith is like a Little Seed

Faith
by Beatrice Goff Jackson
Faith is knowing the sun will rise, lighting each new day.
Faith is knowing the Lord will hear my prayers each time I pray.
Faith is like a little seed:
If planted, it will grow.
Faith is a swelling within my heart.
When I do right, I know.

Faith is knowing I lived with God before my mortal birth.
Faith is knowing I can return when my life ends on earth.
Faith is trust in God above;
In Christ, who showed the way.
Faith is strengthened; I feel it grow
Whenever I obey.

In The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we frequently compare faith to a seed. This could result from the comparison of faith to a mustard seed that Savior gives in the Bible.
And the Lord said, If ye had faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye might say unto this sycamine tree, Be thou plucked up by the root, and be thou planted in the sea; and it should obey you (Luke 17:6). 
And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you (Matthew 17:20).
We generally use Alma 32 as our main source, even though in this chapter it compares "the word unto a seed" (v. 28). However, the analogy still works really well when compared to faith.

Avocado seed sprouting
Source: The Avocado Diet
About a year ago, my husband and I decided we would try to grow an avocado tree from one of the pits after making some guacamole. We are not gardeners. At all. We searched through the internet for directions and discovered that we just needed to stick it with three toothpicks to hold it about halfway in water. Then we needed to wait. We waited for a long time. It took about 5 weeks before we saw any roots or stem. All we noticed was the pit splitting apart. I honestly thought the pit was rotting, but I hoped that it wasn't. We waited some more, making sure the water level was high enough.

Eventually, we saw that it was alive and growing! Once a root and stem were visible we were more excited and regularly checked it to see how it changed since the last time we looked (anything from a few hours to a few days). Several weeks later we believed it to be rooted enough and tall enough to move into a pot. We purposely choose a good sized pot to encourage the tree to grow even more. We kept it inside through fall and winter to make sure the Rexburg, Idaho cold temperatures wouldn't kill our plant before it had a chance to fight back.

This spring, the weather was warmer earlier than it normally is. As a result, my dear husband put out a good portion of our house plants to our concrete porch to enjoy the unfiltered sunlight and breeze. However, we'd forget to bring them in at night when the temperature drops. We'd forget we needed to water it more considering it's on the hot concrete in the sun. We'd forget to bring it in when we'd have strong winds and storms passing through. Our little avocado tree really suffered. Its leaves were torn and they curled up. It stopped growing upward and producing new leaves. We are now very diligent about bringing this little tree inside when the weather outside looks frightful.

Our year old avocado tree
Now what does this have to do with faith? What similarities are there between faith and this avocado tree?

We experimented. We aren't gardeners. We know almost nothing about plants other than giving them water and sunlight and room to grow. We especially didn't know how to grow something from the leftovers of the fruits (or vegetables) we eat. It was an experiment.
Alma says, "Awake and arouse your faculties, even to an experiment upon my words, and exercise a particle of faith" (v. 27). We need to exercise just a particle of faith in Christ and experiment upon the words of God, His commandments. My husband and I simply stuck toothpicks in an avocado pit, put it in some water and placed it in the sunlight. That's all we did. Occasionally, we'd noticed the water level lower than it should be so we'd add more. However, that's truly all we did at first. Just exercised a little faith.

I mentioned that there was a period of time where I was worried the avocado wasn't going to sprout, that it rotted. As verse 32 reads, "Therefore, if a seed groweth it is good, but if it groweth not, behold it is not good, therefore it is cast away." That's obvious. Exercise faith. See what comes from it. Be patient. You'll learn if your faith was worth it. Faith in the Savior is always worth it. Just exercise some faith and patience. If I had thrown the seed out when I had first thought it was rotted, we wouldn't have the little tree we have now. I just didn't recognize the signs of it sprouting. We are told of how to plant a spiritual seed in us:
Now, if ye give place, that a seed may be planted in your heart, behold, if it be a true seed, or a good seed, if ye do not cast it out by your unbelief, that ye will resist the Spirit of the Lord, behold, it will begin to swell within your breasts; and when you feel these swelling motions, ye will begin to say within yourselves—It must needs be that this is a good seed, or that the word is good, for it beginneth to enlarge my soul; yea, it beginneth to enlighten my understanding, yea, it beginneth to be delicious to me (v. 28).
Seeds swell before they sprout. I hadn't really realized that before. They absorb the water, the nourishment, before growing roots or a stem. I like what verse 33 says, "And now, behold, because ye have tried the experiment, and planted the seed, and it swelleth and sprouteth, and beginneth to grow, ye must needs know that the seed is good." We were so excited to see this seed growing! Faith is the same way. We know that it has swelled, that it has sprouted, that our understanding increased, and our minds begin to expand (v. 34). But this is only the beginning. We don't just say the experiment was a success and then let the newly sprouted seed die. "Neither must ye lay aside your faith, for ye have only exercised your faith to plant the seed that ye might try the experiment to know if the seed was good" (v. 36).

The next natural step is to continue to nourish the seed. To plant it in good soil and give it sunlight. To make sure the environment is favorable towards it. To water it. We must "nourish it with great care, that it may get root, that it may grow up, and bring forth fruit unto us" (v. 37). How does this relate to faith? Once we recognize the truth of the gospel and the Savior, once we have exercised faith and given it the opportunity to grow, we need to continue to do so. We need to make sure to avoid unfavorable circumstances and situations that could harm us and our budding faith and testimony. For example, it would probably be best to avoid going to a midnight party where drugs and alcohol will be served and your standards challenged. Maybe you'd come through fine, but why put yourself in such a situation? If you know it's going to be cold and windy outside, why put your sprouting tender tree out in it purposely? Maybe it would survived, but perhaps it'd only cause it damage.

I love how Alma states the following:
But if ye neglect the tree, and take no thought for its nourishment, behold it will not get any root; and when the heat of the sun cometh and scorcheth it, because it hath no root it withers away, and ye pluck it up and cast it out.
Now, this is not because the seed was not good, neither is it because the fruit thereof would not be desirable; but it is because your ground is barren, and ye will not nourish the tree, therefore ye cannot have the fruit thereof (v. 38-39).
If I neglected my little seed and it dies and I threw it out, it's not because it wasn't good or that it wouldn't have produced avocados in the future. It's because I didn't continue to put forth the effort to care for it. Faith in Jesus Christ is the same. You must continue to have it and exercise it. It's not because Christ isn't trustworthy; it's not because we wouldn't gain salvation if we continued. We just decided to stop, give up, and not endure to the end.
Our sprouting pineapple

Earlier, in verse 37 it mentioned nourishing the seed so that it grows roots. We have a pineapple we are currently experimenting with. It has grown these little white fuzzy roots which absorb the water. We are letting it develop more in this jar of water before giving it some soil. Just as we did with our avocado. Our little tree needed strong roots. If we hadn't given it the time to grow roots, to dig into it's pot of soil before accidentally leaving it outside to face the wind storms, I'm sure our little tree would have toppled and possibly died.

We need to make sure that our spiritual seed is growing firm roots in the foundation of the Savior. Helaman 5:12 reads:
Remember, remember that it is upon the rock of our Redeemer, who is Christ, the Son of God, that ye must build your foundation; that when the devil shall send forth his mighty winds, yea, his shafts in the whirlwind, yea, when all his hail and his mighty storm shall beat upon you, it shall have no power over you to drag you down to the gulf of misery and endless wo, because of the rock upon which ye are built, which is a sure foundation, a foundation whereon if men build they cannot fall.
This way, when we face adversity we can be strong. Sometimes we experience trials because of our own choices and its consequences. For example, if your a chain smoker, you can expect to struggle with your health at some point in your life. Other times we experience trials because it's just a part of mortality. Elder Richard G. Scott says:
When those trials are not consequences of your disobedience, they are evidence that the Lord feels you are prepared to grow more (see Prov. 3:11-2). He therefore gives you experiences that stimulate growth, understanding, and compassion which polish you for your everlasting benefit. To get you from where you are to where He wants you to be requires a lot of stretching, and that generally entails discomfort and pain ("Trust in the Lord").
Our tender avocado faced winds, rain, hot concrete, cold nights. While we had made a mistake and left our tree outside and our tree suffered the consequence of that accidental decision, eventually our little tree will be permanently planted in the soil outside and have to face the natural weather. There are some things we can do to protect it at that point the best we can, but nature happens. We need to make sure we give it the best chance possible to survive. Just with our faith. We need to make sure to protect it. To encourage a strong foundation in Christ.

Sometimes our plants are cut down through no fault of our own. One avid gardner had beautiful rows of carrots and radishes. Her husband has a keen interest in horses. It just so happened that the tether on the horses were just long enough for them to reach the carrots and radishes. They nibbled the tops off. She was thinking that there was no coming back from such severe damage. However, she continued to care for her garden, hoping that they would be alright. They were and they produced lovely carrots and radishes.

There are times when our faith and testimony takes a severe beating and might be cut down through the trials and adversity we face. However, if we have a strong foundation in Christ and we nourish it, we can be stronger and better than before.

Our little avocado tree, while not having grown any taller since its trials, has grown thicker around its stalk. It's better able to face the strong winds it might experience in the future. Its roots have a firm grasp of the soil it is in. We, too, can be stimulated to grow through trials as Elder Scott mentioned.

Faith really is like a little seed. We just need to nourish it with actions of obedience to God through making and keeping covenants and obeying His commandments.

Sunday, April 28, 2013

The Doctrine of the Salvation of Little Children

"Jesus loves and blesses children. They are the companions of angels. They shall be saved. Of such is the kingdom of Heaven" (Bruce R. McConkie)

My greatest fears and worries are not being able to have children, having miscarriages and stillbirths, and experiencing a death of a child. I believe those are worries all potential mothers have. I'm surrounded by young couples who are building and strengthening their marriage, pregnant, and with children. However, there are several who have, at this young age, suffered loss of children already.

What comfort can we receive and give to those that worry about and experience such a terrible loss?


Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Keeping the Marriage Strong: Transition from Childless to a House Full

The transition between being married and having no children to then having children is a big one. One young mother of two I interviewed said, “It is the hardest transition you will ever go through. Much harder than from single to married.” The concept of bringing little children into the world, raising and supporting them, teaching them how to be productive members of society and return to our Father in Heaven, causes me to stress and worry. I am already nervous about such a big transition. The responses from parents I interview truly helped me gain advice and counsel that can help me prepare for that new stage of life. I hope that it can help you too. I interviewed four individuals: my mother, my father, and three young mothers. If you have any other advice or answers to these questions, comment!

Thursday, February 14, 2013

Date: Love Map 20 Questions Game

As a Marriage and Family Studies Major, we study dating, marriage, and families a lot. As such, I end up taking a lot of classes with the titles of "Family Stress and Coping" or "Parenting" and even "Family Theories and Dynamics." This semester I'm taking a class entitled "Marriage." One of the reading materials for the class is John M. Gottman's (and Nan Silver's) The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert.

I truly love this book. The basic premis is that a successful marriage should be based on a foundation of friendship. With that in mind, the books has seven principles to strengthen that friendship; things married couples should do.

At the end of the chapter, the book has certain activities (exercises) for couples to do together that would strengthen the underlined friendship. They're perfect things to do on a date.

The first is: Love Map 20 Questions Game. As a couple, you can do this during your date. It's so the couple can get to know each other better. People change. If you're not paying attention you could find yourself married to a stranger. This game helps you so you can always be updated with each other.


Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Engaged: What to Register for?

My husband and I have almost been married for 6 months. In that time, we've been extremely grateful for our wedding gifts, but we realized that we missed a few things we really should have added to our registry. Since I have a few friends and relatives getting married soon, I just wanted to give a list of things to consider adding to the registry. Obviously, the wedding registry depends on the couple and their own personal needs and wants; not everything needs to be included and more could be added.

A few things to know before you register:

  1. What colors you'd like in your home.
  2. The size of your mattress.
  3. What you both already have.


Friday, January 4, 2013

Dating Advice for Guys

Being a girl, married and majoring in Marriage and Family Studies, I've been asked by guys for advice on dating. Before anyone reads any further there are a few things to mention.

Rule #1: I do not know everything. I'd like to. Sometimes I'd like to think I do. But I don't. My advice is only that, advice and opinion. I'd like to think that my advice counts for a little more because I am a girl, married and majoring in Marriage and Family Studies, but honestly, I'm just giving advice that you can choose to follow or not and I have no idea what harm or good it will actually do for each date.

Rule #2: Girls are crazy. While it's relatively accepted that men will be men (though should still be respected by women), you have to recognize that girls are crazy. The level of crazy is varied. But we are. I can't predict everything that girls will or will not do. Remember, I don't know everything.

Now onto the questions. If you have comments or more questions, please comment at the end of this post. I'd really like to hear other's thoughts on these questions or what else people would like to know.

Thursday, January 3, 2013

Individual Worth #1

"You are a daughter of Heavenly Father, who knows you and loves you. Read Psalm 8:4-6; Jeremiah 1:5; John 13:34; Doctrine and Covenants 18:10; Abraham 3:22-23; and Joseph Smith-History 1:1-20. Write in your journal how these scriptures teach you that Heavenly Father knows you, loves you, and is mindful of you."
I know that I am a daughter of God. I know that my Father in Heaven loves me. When I look around at the life I have and all the blessings I have within it, it becomes evidence to my eyes that I am loved. The scriptures assigned reinforced that.

When David saw a few of the grand things God made in just looking at the sky, he asks, Why art thou mindful of man? It is a good question to ask in faith. Why is God mindful of me when there are so many great things for Him to pay more attention to? It's because He loves me. He loves who I am. He knew me before I was born (Jeremiah 1:5; Abraham 3:22-23). He knows me now and knows my name, just as He knew Joseph Smith's (Joseph Smith-History 1:1-20). I mean a great deal to Him, as the worth of souls are great in the sight of God (D&C 18:10). He loves me, and everyone else, so much that He wants us to love each other too (John 13:34).

It is a great comfort to me that my Father in Heaven is aware of who I am, loves me, and is mindful of me. I am not ever alone. I will never be unloved. Neither will anyone else.

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Past and Future

2012
Such a significant year for me where a lot of really great moments happened.
  • BJ and I officially started dating in January.
  • We both were blessed with wonderful friendships and roommates.
  • BJ proposed April 12 during Spring Break.
  • My soon-to-be-husband met most of my extended family on both my father's and mother's side.
  • I met much of his extended family.
  • August, we were married and sealed for all time and eternity in the Oquirrh Mountain Utah Temple.
  • August, I also saw Les Misérables for the first time at the Shakespeare Festival in Cedar City, Utah.
  • We moved into our first home together August.
  • My brother was able live nearby for a semester as he attended BYU-Idaho.
  • In General Conference, President Thomas S. Monson announced that young women can serve missions at 19 years and young men at 18 years. My brother turned in his mission papers and was called to serve in the Utah Salt Lake City South Mission.
  • BJ and I had our first Thanksgiving together and I cooked my first turkey!
  • I experienced my first snow of the season (I'm a Cali girl. I used to only show up at school after it was also on the ground).
  • BJ and I had our first Christmas together. We had our first Christmas tree. We made homemade ornaments. I cooked my first ham and with a perfect glaze, and created an altogether awesome first Christmas dinner.
  • It was also my first White Christmas ever.
2013
This year, a lot of exciting things are going to occur! I'm so excited for them!
  • My brother reports to the Provo MTC January 1st.
  • The snow will eventually melt and the weather will eventually get warmer.
  • I'll graduate BYU-Idaho.
  • My husband and I will have our first anniversary.
  • My brother-in-law will return from his mission in Southern California.
  • My other brother, serving in the South Carolina Columbia Mission, will return home after two years on the other side of the country.
My husband and I have had a great year. We've gone a total of 5 days the entire year of not seeing each other for the whole day (it helps that he lived right across the parking lot and that Rexburg, ID is rather small). We survived the end of the world together. I have a partner in life aiming for the same goals for our family. I'll have him as my husband for eternity; we won't ever lose each other. We had a really blessed year.

We are looking forward to our first year together as a married couple. We are excited for every day and the gifts each day reveals to us. We are so blessed.

Happy New Year everyone. I hope you make it the best year yet.