3 Nephi 6

We choose how we act. We have agency. In 3 Nephi 6, there were people who were lifted up in pride while others were exceedingly humble; "some did return railing for railing, while others would receive railing and persecution and all manner of afflictions, and would not turn and revile again, but were humble and penitent before God" (13). We really do choose how we act. How we respond.

Elder Marvin J. Ashton said:

“Certainly one of our God-given privileges is the right to choose what our attitude will be in any given set of circumstances. We can let the events that surround us determine our actions—or we can personally take charge and rule our lives, using as guidelines the principles of pure religion. Pure religion is learning the gospel of Jesus Christ and then putting it into action. Nothing will ever be of real benefit to us until it is incorporated into our own lives” ("Pure Religion").

We live in a world that can be a pretty negative place. Do we choose to be pessimistic or optimistic? We have control over what we feel and over our attitudes. No one can take that away from you. Even if people doing horrible things to you, you can choose to be forgiving. Even if someone is doing great things for you, you can choose to dislike them. Nobody makes you feel anything. You have control over your own emotions, unless you choose to give that control to somebody else.